Well, Do something!

Kari and I do a lot of things together, well, most things together.  One of the more important things we do is attend church together.  Well, since I moved I have been attending the church Kari grew up in.  It is a great church which I have felt very welcomed into.   I have been given a lot of opportunities and have enjoyed my time there.  Since I have worked in churches for the last 10 years I guess I have developed some pretty strong opinions on what how to "do church well". And I guess I have been voicing those strong opinions to my wife since I have been noticing things in her/my church that have made me laugh, raise my eyebrows, and even made me ask "Seriously, Kari, did that just happen?" "Seriously?"  One of my most noticeable things has been every time we stand and sit as a congregation there is a very loud, and when i say loud i mean just that. Loud. Squeak of the wooden pews.  The first time I heard it i literally laughed and looked around to see who else noticed it, But i was all by myself smiling at the Loud noise.

Just this past Sunday though as I was watching how the tech stuff was being run, I leaned over and said "This is all wrong. It looks so unprofessional, and the program they are using is not being used the way it should."

And that is when it happened.  I said those oh so simple words to my wife.  When I said it I think I was looking for a just as simple remark back.  you know something along these lines

"Oh Honey, You are a such a manly tech guy, of course you know how to do it better"
"You are so right, have I told you you how handsome you are today"
"Have I told you that you can run that program better than anyone, my perfect husband"

you know something like that.  But i got nothing like those agreeable statements.  I got something that I suppose I will call a "I am not going to cater to your non-sense spousal statement"  This is what she said to me "Well, why dont you do something about it than!" Hmmm. Well, the truth of it is my wife was right. Again. I should not complain about something when I am capable of doing something about it now.

Even though My wife said something to get me to do something instead of just allowing me to complain I guess I need to thank her. Again.  Because these are the types of things that not only make me into a better person but allows me to help and serve and let the things I have learned help others out.  All great things instead of the week in and week out whining and complain about things.

IS this not what marriage is truly about. Helping the other person not just complain, but to help them to use their talents and thoughts for the positive instead of living in the negative side.  So Sometime this week I am going to the church to try and "help" with what has bothered me.

Maybe next time though I will get to hear something like:
"Oh you complain so cute! Have I told you that you are my dream boat hunk!"
One can only dream!